上过战场的女孩

 

DIERSITY LUNCH 是由我们的MANAGER发起的, 因为我们GROUP的人来自不同的国家和地区, 有苏联, 牙买加, 越南, 马来西亚, 台湾, 大陆,印度, 美国人中有来自意大利的后裔, 英国的后裔,我们的MANAGER就是一个地道的”黑”老美, 堪称一个小小联合国. 为了加强大家彼此之间的了解,MANAGER建议每个月由一个人HOST一顿和自己背景有关的午饭, 向大家介绍自己的背景, 国家,文化, 这真是一个很好的主意. 通过这样的多元化交流, 了解了很多”背后”的故事, 同事之间的关系更融洽了.

昨天的DIERSITY LUNCH, 是我们GROUP的一个越南裔女孩HOST的, 她是暂时在我们这里做”OFFICE SPECILIST”的, 帮助大家组织会议呀, 协调一些活动了, 很年轻, 很有青春活力的一个女孩, 因为平时接触不多, 也就是见面”HI”一下, 可是昨天听了她的故事, 却使我心中产生了由衷的敬佩…

她出生于越南, 父亲是个军人, 因为越南战争的原因, 他父亲在监狱里呆了6年, 最后才以越南难民的身份来到美国. 高中毕业后, 她选择了参军, 为此遭到了父母的强烈反对, 可她还是想有自己的生活, 所以哄骗父母在参军表上签了名. 参军后不久, 美国就攻打了伊拉克, 经过了几个月的密集培训, 她于2004年被派到了伊拉克, 在医院的急诊室工作. 我们问她, 去之前, 害怕吗, 她说当然怕, 可是到了那之后, 看到那么多年轻的生命受伤, 牺牲, 她们忙的每天只睡3-4个小时, 都没有时间去害怕了.

她给我们展示了很多在伊拉克前线的照片, 看到那些照片, 我们这些生活在和平安逸社会的人, 心中有的是震撼. 你不会想到当你悠闲的散步, 购物, 度假, 享受生活的时候, 有这样一个美丽的女孩正在危险的前线奉献着自己的青春. 她说, 她工作的同时, 也在ONLINECOLLEGE学一些课程, 有一次她正在参加考试, BUILDING遭到轰炸, 她飞快的在考卷上写下: 不会想到, 我的BUILDING遭到轰炸, 需要撤离……

我们问她, 她最大的收获是什么, 她说, 她学会了珍惜生活和关心他人, 你不会想到, 今天还和你一起工作的同事, 明天是不是还在这个世界上. 有一天, 她休息, 她通常在休息日会去探访伤员, 可那天身体不舒服, 所以没去医院, 可就在那天, 她工作的医院被轰炸, 她赶过去的时候, 看到满地被炸飞的胳膊, 腿, 她们是含着眼泪把这些残肢收起, 因为你不知道哪个是哪个的, 那残忍的场面是一悲子都不会忘记的.

通过和伤员的接触, 他发现这些伤员最大的感觉就是孤独, 想家, 于是她就自发的开始了一个项目:”Care Packages for Wounded Soldiers in Iraq” 也就是收集,买一些糖果, 饼干, 利用她的休息时间, 去慰问那些受伤的伤员, 跟他们谈心, 聊天, 可以想象, 有这么一个美丽的女孩的关心,那些受伤伤员得到了多么难得的抚慰. 有很多伤员向他敞开心匪, 他们成了患难之交. 遗憾的是她的这个项目因为她的离开, 目前没有人接替.

在她向我们展示的WEB SITE上, 我们看到一个男孩的照片, 有同事问那个男孩是谁, 她含着眼泪告诉我们, 那是她的未婚夫, 可他已经永远也醒不过来了. 他们是初中及高中的同学, 男孩比她提前上的前线, 就在他即将结束他的前线生涯的一天, 受了重伤, 被送到女孩工作过的医院, 可是那一刻, 女孩刚刚离开医院, 她哭诉她抢救过那么多的伤员, 可为什么上帝不让她亲手为她亲爱的人做点什么, 男孩去世的时候, 刚刚21岁, 多么年轻的生命……



多么令人敬重的美丽女孩! 以下是她纪念她的未婚夫所写的Beautiful Writing:

2 June 2004, I finally got to see you after 6 months of being deployed. You just don't know how happy I am to be able to see you, hold you, kiss you and to hear you say "I love you"to me. They say a first love never ends and I believe that's true. We both might have moved on, but once you have truly loved somebody, the feelings do not go away, and you never stop caring for them. I've always questioned myself if you ever really loved me? As I wake from my dream to find out two days later that you do, and wanted to make sure that I knew it before you have to go away again for the last time. They say the people who you love come back to visit you in your dreams. I never thought it would mean I'll never get to see you again in reality. It hurt so bad to find out you were critically injured and stayed in intesive care for four days at the 31st CSH. Everyday I visit and take care of other wounded soldiers, but I never would have thought that I would not be able to do that for you. How can God not let me see you and take care of you for the last time? But in my heart I know you wished for me not to see you hurt like that. Today, I cried myself to sleep praying that my tears will bring you back. I woke up, went to the hospital looking for you, hoping to see you in ICW2 where all of my soon to be healthy patients sleep. I couldn't find you and don't think I ever will......

My dear friend you will be missed greatly by all of those who have had the good fortune to know and love you. Although your time with us was short all the wonderful things you did in life will be remembered fondly by all of us. God has found a better place for you as you will rest there in heavenly peace.

I have lost a truly great friend to Operation Iraq Freedom II. Bum Rok and I went to Junior & Highschool together and shared many wonderful moments together. Bum Rok, Joe(his bestfriend), and I joined the military at the same time. He had always been the bravest one out of us three. I would always think of him as the protector, and me as the care giver. He did his part, killed many bad Iraqis to keep them away from me. I just can't believe he was so close to me and I was not able to help comfort him in his time of need. And now knowing that he can only protect me from up there hurt so much. I know he's in a better place but how I wish he could be here with us instead. I still can not believe I will never get to hear his voice, see his face, or hug him again. Only time can heal all wounds, this loss. I want to thank you everyone for your great comfort and support. I will keep Bum Rok, his family and friends in my thoughts and prayers daily.






红花 (2012-01-01 20:26:29)

我从你的这篇文章里,也读出了什么是奉献的青春。她说,最大的收获是懂得珍惜生活和关心他人。。。我们生活在和平时代,珍惜和关心,早已经视为平常。 不经历风雨,不能见彩虹。所以,我们每个人都应该珍视今天的幸福生活。

 

朵朵妈,新年快乐。

刘瑛依旧 (2012-01-01 21:27:46)

令人感动!

年轻的生命,经历了战争的洗礼,会因此而显得更丰厚。

谢谢朵朵妈写出这个故事。

新年快乐!

木桐白云 (2012-01-02 00:27:49)

令人感动,战争总是被一些人操纵,很多无辜的人被牺牲。

海云 (2012-01-02 02:10:32)

今天在纽约酒店里看见一位年轻人,是退伍军人,穿着短裤,两条小腿以下都是铁质假肢,他漂亮的女友正为他拍照!不知道政府对这样贡献出青春和部分身体的年轻人怎样的待遇?听说他们心里的创伤比身体上的更难恢复!

所以我痛恨战争!无论是以何种名义进行的战争!

新年好!

百草园 (2012-01-02 16:03:48)

很感到,战争真的非常残酷,把我们所爱的人永远永远地带到了这个世上的另一方,也给活着的人留下了刻骨铭心的悲伤。这个女孩子还年轻,相信她会慢慢有自己今后的生活。

谢谢分享这个感人的故事,你们组的这个不同文化交流的活动挺好,以前我们组也是每月出去吃饭,现在大家忙的这些活动都取消了。

虔谦 (2012-11-22 15:54:24)

谢谢分享,令人浮想难忘......祝福这位女孩!